I am giving my intuition a full and free rein.
Maybe we live our lives according to some grand hidden default idea, I am not pulling anyone to delve into a deep philosophical discourse. I am no good either.
We have a lot of things to be thankful for. Everything we own, everything we have and are.
It is okay to make mistakes, to alienate (contemptuous) people and to make errors. Trust me, if you cared less, life would be easier. As long as you can think what is the best possible premise beneath every outcome then happiness sooner or later will be at your disposal.
Take two roads and see both views. Good/bad and decide intuitively.
This is me, letting my intuition take the lead.