"But then we do discover how to make the distinction, and we discover we are tiny and vulnerable in a vast, strange and sometimes terrifying world."
I wasn't menacingly precocious just so you know. Just so everybody knows.
You see there are certain perks of being the only man in your family. There's also a pitfall though. Raya's been alright I guess. Or great in every sense or whatever. Well you know bright lights, genuine smiles, warm embraces, hypothetical tears, 'dress to impress', family gathering, duit raya (for what it's worth), fancy cars to show off and brag about. And you the one I argued with, let's get to this conundrum real deep.
First off I'm heartily sorry if the way I grow up to be doesn't tickle your fancy. I don't portray and tell people off the actuality of what is happening in my life. Barring the 'I've grown up as much as I plan to', it took me by surprise that you judged my act as a 'transgression against god' solely because I lit up a cig. So here's the irrational contention with my long-lost-fickle uncle who appeared out of the blue.
I know not all would agree with what I agree to.
"Qayyum who I knew once, the 6 year old kid now smoking. Ni mesti sebab pengaruh kawan, don't mingle with the wrong crowd. Refrain yourself from smoking. Kalau jaga sembahyang mesti tak terjebak benda-benda macam ni."
"You've got no idea what I've been through over the years. I'm 19 verging on 20, I smoke by choice. The irony is, you smoke too. So maksudnya uncle tak jaga sembahyang macam tu no? So smokers memang tak sembahyang? Yang rajin ke surau/masjid yang smoke tak sembahyang? Take a good glimpse of yourself in a mirror before you're obligated to judge me. Or anyone for that matter."
1) I'm pretty certain I have a greater grasp on who I am now.
2) Yes I ditch people (the useless ones), that's what I do. That's what we all do.
3) Those outmoded mentalities/ideas, which now seem to me somewhat absurd and ridiculous. 'Age & Respect' is not applicable under this special set of circumstances. Intellectual is.
Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri Maaf Zahir & Batin.
Oh and be a good person, it never goes to waste.